nothing is sexier than the idea of becoming self-sufficient and independent from capitalism like living in the woods and the only “skincare industry” that exists is you and your friends smashing up strawberries from the community garden with your bare hands and rubbing them directly on each others faces
lesbians are only really allowed to exist in media if they subscribe to “normal” femininity, anything else, like a butch lesbian, if they even exist in media are either treated as a joke or as a villain and it fucking… breaks my heart that that’s what the general census in society is, lesbians are allowed to exist as long as we’re pretty. that’s it. we can be inaccessible as long as men still think we’re nice to look at and fantasise about and that messes me up
miski’s like, i put some Deep understanding of ur emotional turmoil, loneliness, simultaneous fear and desire for intimate and transformative human connection, and anxiety with living in a capitalist society while navigating interpersonal relationships in a world that is deeply isolating in the wine. And the pasta
im feeling very sad for feminism today… i think where we went wrong was trying to commodify and commercialize feminism with these “girl power” and “the future is female” t shirts which were created by this minimalistic pastel aesthetic and kind of softened what previously was a very anarchist and rebellious movement (see early 90s feminist rock bands which glamorized the opposite of femininity with shaved hair, unshaved pits and legs, no makeup)
and now we have artists like ariana grande, nicki minaj, fifth harmony, daya, etc (this isn’t a callout post for them i don’t care about them as individuals i’m just commenting on a trend in pop culture perpetrated by the music industry) who put out music with feminist sentiments but absolutely no evidence of actively rebelling against societal expectations for women. “i don’t need boys i don’t need to be pretty i don’t need to be sexy” performed in scantily clad clothing with makeup sponsored by perfume and makeup companies is proof that capitalistic pressure has kind of destroyed the rebellious nature of the feminist movement.
so now we have a generation of girls raised on the internet convinced that performing femininity and caking their natural face in makeup in order to conform to unrealistic standards of beauty, placing their worth in their physical appearance inherently by paying money in order to appease some made up standard of what is acceptable for women, and they’ve convinced themselves that this, this conformity of expectation of feminist for women, is inherently feminist?
like it sucks like you guys know feminism is a counteractive movement right? like you know to be feminist is to rebel right? it’s not enough to consume pretty, neat, but wholly hypocritical ideals of feminism. it’s lazy. we have a generation of girls who want to adhere to expectations for women, who want to become that ideal that men have constructed, but now because they “reclaimed” it, that’s feminist?
like no sorry you Can do those things you Can put on makeup and shave and look pretty and girl you Can but don’t pretend that’s feminist it’s literally not. you’re not helping feminism the commodification of feminism is not helpful. men are not upset by you saying “the future is female” when you still look pretty and pink and non-threatening. we aren’t liberated by expectation just because you are now accepting of it. feminism is not complacency.
this post doesn’t apply to the reclaimation of femininity in the context of trans women which is a whole other discussion but generally i think the idea still applies. thanks
and like you know what else sucks? the fact that women are going to reply to this saying “SOMEONE doesn’t know how to apply makeup” as if that’s some burn like no i never felt compelled to because makeup clogs your pores which makes you break out which makes it easier for the makeup industry to sell you shit for your skin which wouldn’t be happening if you didn’t put that shit on your face. acne is natural, washing your face is natural, but clogging ur pores that much is not. it’s an industrial decision.
also like women today who love makeup And feminism mocking gnc women sound exactly like men in the 70s who protested feminism on the basis that it makes women “man hating lesbians” so congrats?
die mad about it but makeup and shaving isn’t feminist even if it’s a “personal choice/preference”. it was socially ingrained in you from birth to perform this way so the easiest choice is to accept it but it isn’t feminist.
It’s one thing for women who have traditionally been considered “non-women” (trans women, enby feminine people, fat women, disabled women, black women [I think? I am white so I cannot definitively speak to this aspect] ) to reclaim pretty pink femininity. We haven’t been afforded that luxury.
ON THE OTHER HAND, we still have a responsibility to critically examine our own attitudes and desires and the world we live in.
I might want to make myself pretty because fuck, the world never told me I’m pretty EVER because I’m fat (and enby, but kinda stealth). But I also need to look deeper: WHY do I want to look “pretty” instead of JUST being accepted for who I am without any makeup or ultra-feminine trappings? WHY do I want the greater world to accept me before I feel comfortable rejecting that acceptance as not needed?
Feminism is a constant exercise in critical thinking. Don’t ever forget that.
i just want to live in a cottage right on the edge of the forest and the coast, close enough to town to walk with a little basket for groceries and idk work in a local bookshop. like please. thats the dream
lesbians be complex as shit no one can understand us besides us we’re like cats
boys and men will try to convince you that humans are intrinsically selfish and egotistical because they can’t cope with the fact that women are actually taught from birth to put their community, their friends, their family, everyone on equal (sometimes even higher) footing.
male individualism is completely dependent on the emotional labour of women, and whenever you try to point this out they act like you’re denying basic human facts
i put “All I Want for Christmas is You” through a MIDI converter, and then back through an mp3 converter
the result is this garbage
I’m driving myself up the wall because I swear I can hear the vocal line but I don’t know how that could be if it was truly converted to MIDI. Unless you can replicate speech sounds entirely with modulated MIDI notes, in which case I’m actually impressed with this tire fire of an MP3.
the holiday season is almost upon us and I’d like to bring back this absolute fucking monstrosity of an audio file
the concept of womanhood makes me crazy and the concept of spending time with women who have internalized the concept of womanhood is like the opposite of sisterhood you literally can’t escape it. You go anywhere and someone will b like. you should shave
Emotional tactility & Identity of Clothing in Queer Cinema
- Carol (Todd Haynes, 2015)
- Call Me by Your Name (Luca Guadagnino, 2017)
- Bitter tears of Petra Von Kant
(Rainer Werner Fassbinder, 1972)
- Tomboy (Céline Sciamma, 2011)
- Summer of Sangaile (Alante Kavaite, 2015)
- Paris is Burning (Jennie Livingston, 1990)
- Beau Travail (Claire Denis, 1999)
- Brokeback Mountain (Ang Lee, 2005)
[Feel free to add more.]
Sylvia Plath was right
About what?
“Being born a woman is an awful tragedy. Yes, my consuming desire to mingle with road crews, sailors and soldiers, bar room regulars—to be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening, recording —all is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, a female always in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an invitation to intimacy. Yet, God, I want to talk to everybody I can as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night.”
